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gender & sexuality

 

Freud, the founder of Psychoanalysis, developed theories about the formation of  a sense of gender and sexuality. He believed that 'normal' identity led to an individual gaining a sense of themselves as masculine or feminine from their parents, becoming a gender appropriate to their anatomical sex. In Freud's view, a 'normal' identity is completed when the child chose the opposite gender as a sexual preference. These kinds of theories formerly influenced the medical and psychiatric professions which tended to 'diagnose' people who did not fit within these limits as having a psychiatric condition or an anatomical anomaly for surgical correction. Much has changed since then. As a profession, counsellors and psychotherapists are now realising that there is an enormous potential for variety in the human being.

In my view, the origin of such diversity is inconsequential. What is important is that the individual can find a way to be in the world that feels right for them.

If you have an alternative gender identity or sexuality:

Whether you want help with issues around gender and/or sexuality or you’re seeking therapy for an unrelated matter; it is important to find a therapist who will be positive or “affirmative” towards your identity and will:

· support you to find a way to be yourself authentically

· understand you without prejudice or ignorance around diversity

· feel comfortable talking openly about your gender and sexuality

It can be difficult when starting with a new therapist to try to second guess whether they will accept the ‘real’ you. The majority of therapists today have broadly positive attitudes and would probably feel comfortable if you check out with them if they accept your gender/sexuality. If you are not reassured by the response you get, it may be wise to choose a different therapist. However, if you are uncomfortable about having this kind of dialogue, you could check the Directory of Pink Therapists for someone you could be confident of from the outset.